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How to accept and overcome my mistakes ?
ReplyDeleteAcceptance itself will give the strength to overcome all the mistake. Most difficult part is to have feeling of ownership to all the actions one does himself. To realise the mistakes one should cultivate the quality to observe and to be aware. Awareness is the key to solve this issue
DeleteWhat to do if I feel that someone I love very much is Lying to me..(I can understand , he might be afraid of me jumping to the conclusion that he's cheating , or he don't want to lose me ).
ReplyDeleteAnd me too afraid to tell him the type of situations in detail because of the same fear of lose.
This is hurting me very much . I cant sleep .
Please advice .
Understand and realize feelings are only feelings. Quiet often it can be far from reality. Try to understand and trust your love, if you feel he/she is genuine. Fear always destroy relationship. Try to express your feelings openly at right time, but in an appropriate way
DeleteHope this will help.
Thank you
11th June 2019 .
DeleteIts not for expecting any reply from anybody . But just to share my experience , my inner feelings . It may appear as strange or unbelievable to others including the "actors of this drama" , but its REAL . I categorized myself this drama into FOUR parts .. FUNNY.....!!! Enjoy my story , even if I am crying inside ...
Part 1 :
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During my childhood days , I lost my brother . I was so attached to him . And I became completely lost and began to live in loneliness . It may be because I felt I missed a chance to save him , yes its an accidental death ...
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After 1 or 2 years , I saw someone , who looks like my brother . I felt so attached to him , and wanted to be with him forever . It was an innocent feeling . I was trying to recover my golden days with my brother . But no one can be like a bother indeed , except your own blood relation . Yet I was waiting , with a feeling that one day he will come and understand me .
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The real story .. Years passed . I became a wife , a mother ... and the Queen of a wealthy and Happy family . It was almost 25 years passed . Still I have a thirst to be with my brother ( I know he is not my brother , and nobody can understand such a poor relation. And to my surprise , I recognized myself that , I was crying inside to get that relation in my life .
Part 4 :
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Read below ...
Part 4 :
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• I believe in Universe . I believe in GOD . That may be the reason of getting some clues before I enter into such situation . I heard it from here and there , It was a common advice , but now I realized that it was for me . "Don't enter into anybody's Orbit" . Not only once , I heard this ( same meaning but different sentences) a number of times .
• At that time , I met someone . I felt him that he was the one I waited for long years in my life . I forgot the intense feeling towards my brother ( and 30 years of secret feeling towards another man with the feeling of a sister's affection) . This time , I repeated in my mind that " I will not loss him anyway" . I prayed sincerely .
• Months passed , somehow we became friends ..... I told my whole stories to him , including the strange advice (Don't enter into anybody's orbit ).
(I am not a women who is longing for anyone's friendship . I am bold , I am happy . I am so proud being a part of a wealthy & loving family . And I am the Queen of my family . I am the princess of my husband . I love him very much . I have everything , except a brother ).
• Our friendship started growing . He used to tell about his stories . One moment I knew that he has a kind of LOVE towards me . I was waiting for a strong connection (like I had with my brother 30 years back) , so my feelings too increased .
2-3 years passed. I don't want to cheat my family . Now I understand the advice from the universe I received 2-3 years before .
• In between that we had a small clash . during that 4 months , I realized the presence of other women in his life . It may be my feeling only . But how I heard that common advice before (Don't enter into anybody's orbit ), which was so true in my case , just like that some strong evidence began to flow in front of me . For the first time , I thought about his loving family , his kids . I asked him about the presence of other women in his life . He refused everything . What I want in my life was a strong intimate connection and friendship ( which I lost years back after my brother's accidental death in front of me ) , now I am going through a mental shock of more than that death .
• yesterday we met , instead of LOVE , I saw some other thing there . I felt that I am a TOY . I begged him , please cut the friendship with me , if you have other relations in your life . I told him to think about his wife , kids ,parents etc . If they were in such a situation , will you accept it ? he told NO .
• And for the first time , instead of LOVE and CARE , I felt that I am a TOY ... He told , he likes all his TOYS .I know I am pure .. I may miss someone who treated me as a TOY ( at first it was not like that , strong care was there . But now I felt that some other TOY entered into his life , I am getting it from here and there , just like the universal message I received).But once you will understand what you missed was the MOON while searching the stars . You will never get someone in your life like this . I am SURE .. Otherwise wait and see.. I loved you , cared you more than my life .
• I was waiting for someone (after my brother's death) for more than 30 years , with same intensity..
with same feeling ...
That's why universe gave him in my life .
And I learned that lesson from my experience : “If something is there for you , it will definitely be yours” .
• I enjoyed all these (care , intense friendship , love , intimacy etc) in these 2-3 years ,Thank you very much for that .And I came out of 30 year’s of dilemma.
• But what I missed that the trust in relations . Because you told " you like all your TOYS .
Read below what advice I heard 2-3 years back
"Don't enter into anybody's orbit:
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You know what will happen if one PLANET entered into the ORBIT of another planet ? COLLISION ...!!!!
What will happen if one vehicle crosses its run way (not as per the rule) ? COLLISION ....!!!!
A FAMILY is also like an ORBIT . It consists of a wife / husband , innocent kids , loving parents etc . You may enjoy being with any one of them for a short period of time , because you are an outsider . There may be LOVE only . No need to take any responsibility .
But after a while , everything will fade . Like a boomerang every thing will come back to you .Your planet will collide and you may loss something valuable .
We can enjoy everything . But "DON'T ENTER INTO ANYBODY'S ORBIT" . Try to think about your mother , wife , daughter etc while you are in front of any women . They are not a TOY for enjoyment . They too have a family .
By giving them enough care at first and making them feel as a second priority later is like killing them . Please don't do a mistake with other innocent , care loving persons for your pleasure and enjoyment . How they liked you once will hate you more than that later .
You told once , it doesn’t matter who is advising , take the points and apply in your life , if they are the truth .
Its not an advice ...
Take it as a Universal warning .
Part 5 - The final part .
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He came again . After a small fight .
Anyway , I am happy regarding this meeting . All my feelings alleviated .
He gave me a promise that "There will not be anyone in his life other than his family" .
My dream come true . I may be the reason . Anyway , Universe is seeing everything .
Thank you very much .... :-)
11th June 2019 I started writing this . And today 13th April...Now am writing this to his wife V..
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Dear V...
This is a confession message . I knoe this will reach to you through Universe .
At first , please accept my apologies for coming into your Orbit . My intention was positive but everything turned upside down . I entered into your Orbit . I became his soul mate . I shared evry small small news with him .
But I know , deep inside , a number of people are chasing him . I stood with him in order to give him protection , I knew he missed a real friend and I was giving that pure soulmate ship to him .
Some times he told I am policing , whenever he used whatsapp , I make sure that some people (who tried to misuse him ) was not online .
But ..I knew my policing was more than his capacity . Today he shouted when I asked about a woman . Before that I tried to convince him about 3-4 other ladies but he told all are my feelings only as a dear soul mate .
Upto this day , I was with him ... like a shadow .. iI fought , cared , consolidated and sometimes showed my policing behavior too .. I know he too fed up .
You know one thing ? No ladies will love his husband's girl friend . Each day I will send my apologies mentally , I cried along with you .. My concern was only for you ...
Today am going out of it ..I tried my level best to to make him understand what I meant , but miserably failed each time .
I did't made any mistake . I am sure . And if I did anything unknowingly , please accept my apologies . And today is your wedding day . So this message to U .
Hope for the best ..
I am confident that he will change one day . This may be the catalyst .
All the best to U and ur family .
Please dont hate me .. I am nobody to ask about his girl friends , but its may be a destiny. I only wished his positive change .
Now I am confident and Happy. More than that , am relaxed too .I told U every thing .
God and Universe are the witness . They know my intentions .I know am pure .
I only wished his positive change ..
Now , leaving everything to the Universe , am quitting .
Love and Regards,
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