Dept. Of Income Tax - Two days Interactive Sessions @ Kendriya Bhavan DEC 24

 Dept. of Income Tax @ Kendriya Bhavan Kochi  

-Two days Interactive Sessions DEC 24

Day 1 Topics

Mastering Self: Strategies for a Balanced Life

Day 2 Topics 

Team Management Communication and  Public Speaking Skills 

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KPMG Stress Management - NOV 24

 KPMG Stress Management Session - NOV 24 

Stress is a factor in 7 out of the top 10 causes of death worldwide, and the workplace is an important contributor (Quick & Henderson, 2016). An American Psychological Association survey found that 31% of staff felt stressed out during their workday (cited in Tetrick & Winslow, 2015). Workplace stress management and wellness programs can help reduce the degree and impact of stress and restore an employee’s depleted psychological resources (Tetrick & Winslow, 2015). This interactive session at KPMG Info park campus, Kochi explored what we mean by stress management and introduced mechanisms and activities that can provide relief and help staff cope

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Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA @ N. Paravur JAN 2023 Agricultural Technology Management Agency

 

Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA @ N. Paravur Block Panchayath Hall JAN 2023 Agricultural Technology Management Agency

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA @ Piravam JAN 2023 Agricultural Technology Management Agency

Manage Self Not Stress - Agricultural Technology Management Agency ATMA @ Piravam Venue: Pampakkuda block Panchayath hall - JAN 2023

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Manage Self Not Stress - Agricultural Technology Management Agency ATMA @ Mulanthuruthy Block - DEC 2022

Manage Self Not Stress - Agricultural Technology Management Agency ATMA @ Mulanthuruthy Block T.M. Jacob Memorial hall, Pallithazham - DEC 2022

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA - Agricultural Technology Management Agency @ Keezhmad Block DEC 2022

Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA                                          Agricultural Technology Management Agency  @ Keezhmad Block Venue: Vazhakulam block Panchayath  DEC 2022

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Manage Self Not Stress - Agricultural Technology Management Agency ATMA @ Angamaly - DEC 2022

 

Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA                                          Agricultural Technology Management Agency  @ Angamaly DEC 2022

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA @ Vadavukode Block Panchayat - NOV 2022

 

Manage Self Not Stress - ATMA                                          Agricultural Technology Management Agency  @ Vadavukode Block Panchayat - NOV 2022

Self-management is our ability to manage our behaviors, thoughts, and emotions in a conscious and productive way. Self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility.


Why self-management is critical?
From an organizational perspective, the ability of team members to self-manage is critical to the effective functioning of an organization. Imagine an environment where the majority of those working within it were unable to stay on task, on strategy, and on schedule. That would make it very challenging to complete projects.

Self-management is a critical workplace skill. This session explores a self-management definition, and tips to improve your self-management skills.

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Beyond the Senses @ Beyond Eco Living Adimali - NOV 2022

 

Beyond the Senses @ Beyond  Eco Living - Adimali

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

Beyond the Senses, A customized two days busy life escape program to unwind the stress of daily life and refresh oneself to promote living in 'here and now' based on the principles of Gestalt psychology. 

The program comprises stay in the scenic private property of Beyond eco living near pathaam mile, Adimali, delicious homely food, nature walk, yoga sessions, JPMR, insightful discussions, light trekking,  camp fire, and many more fun and frolic 

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Life Management Session at Govt. College Kottayam ( Nov 2021)

 

Batch: ~80 volunteers of Govt. College Kottayam NSS Unit No 015
Session: 150 min on-line @ Google meet

Despite the fact that stress has adverse effects on our life, we still deny admitting that this could be a mental disorder. Leading a stressful life hinders our efficiency and lessens our ability to live a healthy and happy life. Being stressed, you may fall sick more often, can feel grumpy and even irritated too.
Our hectic schedules and a number of responsibilities have greatly contributed to this condition and it is important to know the ways that could alleviate stressful conditions. So, here I explain, a few ways that should be followed for a stress-free life...

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ചപ്പാത്തിക്കെന്താ കറി ...?(Chappatthikkenthaa curry...?) -- Communication Problem

https://youtu.be/gwKEHVDoyiU

Watch this !!!

A man feared his wife wasn’t hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss...


Idea & Script: Rajesh Panicker

Camera: Mayan Vaidar Shah

Editing: Gurukripa Aluva

Direction: Viswam Panambukad

Acted & created by 16th Batch Students of Santhwana Institute Of Counselling And Psychotherapy under the guidance of Fr. Dr. Varghese Pudussery CMI, Ph.D.

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Do you want to reduce weight, reduce your stress !!!

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Overweight and emotional eating 

It is a myth that overweight of people suffering from uncontrolled stress is only a result of lack of willpower to control their habitual or emotional eating. 

The problem is not lack of will power. We should feel taste, enjoyment and feeling of satisfaction in our brain to stop eating. But when one is stressed, her/his feedback mechanism is not working. And when they actually eat more they are not getting a feeling of eating enough. Or simply we are not fully present to the food and aware of its taste. Brain likely thinks it didn't eat or eat enough. It asks for more and we give in. 

Mood and food 

Our brain is always on. It takes care of every function in our body. It works hard 24/7, even while we sleep. So brain requires constant supply of premium fuel. But that fuel comes from what we eat. So what we eat affects our brain function, our thoughts and ultimately our mood. 

Eating high quality foods that contain lot of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants nourishes the brain and protects it from oxidative stress. But if we ingest more junk food and refined or processed foods, it badly affects the brain and other organ system. 

So please note, modern science too says that there are many consequences and correlations between what we eat, how we feel and how we ultimately behave. 

Foods we eat make us feel good 

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter, which is feel good hormone in our body. It regulate sleep, appetite, mood and inhibits pain. But 95% of this hormone is produced not in the brain but in out gastrointestinal tract! The functions of neurons producing this hormones in the gut is influenced by billions of good bacteria in the intestinal microbiome. So a clean diet is very essential for the growth of these good bacteria and normal functioning of our body. If we follow unhealthy food and food habits that de-promote the growth of these good bacteria and will lead to the growth of bad bacteria and industrial  dysbiosis. It leads to less production of serotonin, more inflammation, less absorption of nutrients and altered industrial wall permeability and absorption of toxins produced by bad bacteria. This ultimately can affect our liver leading to multiple problems.

Here the solution is an optimum nutrition and "satwik" food

If we can "go clean" following a balanced plant diet, we will not believe how much better we can feel both physically and emotionally

Our most important digestive enzyme - "happiness" 

Classic fight or flight response is the only thing you can expect when you experience stress. That's why people report heartburn, gas and digestive upset when they are struck. Digestion is the last thing our body will attend to when  our  engines are in fight or flight mode. That's  the way our body's safety systems have evolved over  millions of years. 

Our digestive system shuts down when stress response system is activated. All our body's energy is focused onto survival from the threat. 

So if we don't eat happily and in a relaxed mood our digestion and assimilation will not happen properly. Ultimately it will result in overeating, symptoms of in digestion, malnutrition and ill health. Happy mindful food habits can convert illness to Wellness. 

Reduce weight, reduce your stress

Stress can make us put on weight. If stress can do that then relaxation should take it off too, right? Yes, this is how it will...

Common reasons of psychological stress responses are fear, anxiety, anger, judgement, negative attitude and negative self talk. When we are stressed we produce more cortisol and insulin which induce the weight storage mechanism of the body by storage of carbohydrates and fats in cells instead of providing energy and building muscles. This also will reduce our calorie burning capacity. No matter how much best weight loss diet in the world we follow, we will get the opposite result. Smile, breath more deeply, we enter the relaxation zone boosting our calorie burning mechanism and reduce our weight. 

If we adopt stressful weight loss strategies- impossible to follow diet plan, overly intensive exercise, tasteless food an extremely low calorie meal plan,  all of these can create stress chemistry that ensures the weight to stay put. 

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Clean diet alone will not help us. If we can practice mindful eating being present to the food, enjoying its taste and the nourishment our body is getting, we will stop overeating and our weight will come down.

So relax and lose weight. 

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The psychological problem of "always feeling cheated"

                        Why do I always think my partner is cheating on me? 

'You'  only can answer this question as usually people believe that when they have the feeling it is because of signs. You feel like 'your gut' is always telling you this truth. But if there is no solid evidence then be careful as your paranoia, lack of trust and insecurities can destroy relationships and state of mind. Why does it happen?

You can be jealous, and it is a natural instinct when you are heads over heels in love with someone. Might be your instincts telling you something. When you have something really great, it's easy to get caught up in your head imagining it not being there anymore. Due to some incident which has occupied in the subconscious mind may lead you to think, your partner is cheating on you. If your partner has not given you a reason to distrust him/her then this insecurity feeling is coming directly from inside of your mind.

Maybe something similar has happened in a previous relationship and this is an insecurity that has stuck with you over time. Yes, history is said to be a good teacher, and when you were repeatedly betrayed, you tend to "learn" that the people you love will eventually either leave or prove not to be deserving of your trust.

A lot of  concerns regarding an unfaithful spouse, if there are no real indications or clear red flags that they could be cheating, stem from own insecurities. You create your own demons in your relationships; you feel poorly about yourself, push those insecurities onto your significant other, and almost convince them that they were too good for you and bound to find someone better, if they hadn't already. If couldn't see the beauty and amazing traits about yourself that your soulmate is attracted to, so you will have nothing in your brain to convince you that you are worthy of a faithful partner. 

It can be a trust issue.  It may be because you do not trust and love your partner, but not ready to take the blame on you. Maybe you've been hurt before in the past by a significant other being disloyal, which you are trying to impose on your present relationship. Because you've had bad experience of someone breaking your trust and tiny little happenings are triggering something in your mind that makes your brain match whatever is happening right now what you have experience with. 

You feel that your partner isn't showing you as much attention as he/she used to, as your irritating character becomes your nature which push him/her away. Attachment issues and fear of being abandoned are very common fears, especially if one has been hurt in such ways in the past. Although one logically knows that they are wrong (unless evidence says otherwise), the nagging feeling often persists, and causes the individual distress. It's essentially what I would call a "conflict between your mind and your heart".

Or maybe it's just because you're really stressed out and everything seems to turn against you, even within your love life. Maybe because you have cheated and think your partner will do the same. Not everyone is the same. Love and trust go together and when feel doubts and insecurities and you don't have any solid to prove your doubts then you need to look at yourself and see why you are thinking or feeling this way.

Or maybe you love your partner so much that you can't bear to think how your life without him/her might be, so you're constantly worrying that something is going to go wrong and ruin the perfect fairytale you have panned out in your mind? It's natural, but if your partner is making an effort to be loyal, make sure you recognize it as this will help put your fears to rest as well. Give it a thought :)

Sometimes it very hard to understand what is going on. The brain is a strange part of our body. It is always thinking harder than it actually should and can come up with some very far fetched situations. Sometimes we look for problems in other people when we ourselves are feeling lost. Find more information within yourself as to why you feel this way.

Realise that you are not alone. You will be better if you are realistic in acknowledging the possibility that it could happen but that could be exhausting as a constant thought. Invest all these waisted energy into something productive for building the relationship. If you would like to talk with him about your fears, please try to remain open and optimistic about his/her answers. Explain that this is a fear and not an accusation(You too always remember that while talking).

Find ways to install your trust back. Don't try installing software to track him/her, instead confront him/her, but don't accuse him/her of anything it will make him/her defensive. Start of by saying "I haven't seen you that much at home, is everything alright" "Is there something you need to tell me".

Honesty is the key -- Get out of your prejudiced mind and have a good, long conversation with your partner about how you feel. But it should not end up as a heated argument as you may use the opportunity to express your righteousness. You can definitely change your thinking and lead a happy , calmer and peaceful life if you stop OVER THINKING. 

You may be facing the psychological problem of NLD (Non-verbal Learning Disorder). You may feel cheated because you may feel many people still refuse to understand you. Other problems also will pop up because that's the nature of NLD. NLD isn't one or even ten learning disorders but many. No matter how "fine" you seems there will always be an unknown hill to navigate. That's one reason anxiety is usually concurrent with NLD. Depression is common. So are other neurological and "emotional" problems. Just trying to deal with NLD can cause "emotional/mental" problems.

Always remember that NLD can affect everything from spatial, organizational, executive functioning, social and cognitive problems. Most people don't have every problem. There is no definitive criteria for diagnosing NLD but a substantial difference between verbal and performance IQ is often the standard.

Sometimes it is very difficult to find out your inner strength. The bothersome feelings can often however, be alleviated by means of therapeutic techniques such as CBT, and behavioral techniques such as meditation. If one believes their issue to be pathological, then it is best to go see a psychologist or physician, as only health care practitioners are qualified to issue diagnoses and offer treatments.

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Do not learn from your mistakes !!!

 

Don't repeat the same mistakes again



As the saying goes, you should learn from your mistakes. Really? We don't want to make mistakes again, right? That's why they say we should learn from our mistakes. It depends on our perception. It can be a risky business as sometimes our mind can play games and the learned lessons can really be misleading too. Moreover often we twist reality according to our belief system so that it looks like we didn't make a mistake at all. Because by default we don't like to feel bad. Thus if you fail, even to recognize that you have made one, then from where will you learn? When we do something our brain creates a memory pathway. That's a natural way of conditioning, a type of learning. But we didn't learn those lessons purposefully.

The neural pathways created while doing something, right or wrong builds our habits. Its obvious as we can see many examples in our life and lives of people around us. This is true in the case of repeatedly  making mistakes and trying to learn lessons too. The very process of scanning the past mistakes again and again for learning that lesson can be really dangerous. Especially when we are not sure about our expertise in learning lesson properly.  Why we keep making the same mistakes is that we slip by default back into the existing memory pathways. Yes, our brain do learn from making mistakes, … they learn how to make them. 

Solution is that we stop trying to learn from past mistakes. Remembering them will encourage us to get guided by the previous neural pathway. Instead think about what we want to achieve and view it from a fresh angle. Learn right, right now.

Develop a better, new perspective!

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Why fight in marriage? - A password to avoid fight !!!

A password to avoid fight !!!

It is completely normal and healthy for couples to have small fights frequently in a relationship. It is not the number of fights but how you fight is important, like fight that involve criticism, contempt, name-calling or yelling,  are lethal for the relationship

As per Transactional Analysis, all living beings live for positive strokes. We do everything in our life for being happy, yes; of course including marriage, as in the case of building any other relationship. In marriage, you can see that during the initial phase of relationship all are very happy, like they have conquered the world. Every couple thinks that it's their partner who can understand them better than anybody in this world. Clarity of vision is there regarding each other. They can clearly see what is going on in their partner's mind, their feelings in their heart. They compete to make each other happy. They are ready to forgive and forget the mistakes of each other (though later they will claim it as their "broad-mindedness" while they fight). 

But as time goes, because of challenges in the life, and social interactions, the complexity and lack of communication; negativity accumulates and clarity is lost. The relationships gets spoilt and an overall toxicity sets in. Mind is more easily influenced by the negative advices of toxic people, unconsciously creating an impression in the thought pattern.  Fight is always because of ego and deprivation of reciprocal trust. Lack of trust will lead to fear.  In intimate relationships disconnection occurs when the anxiety or fear in one causes the friction and then creates a sense of inadequacy in the other. 

Sex and money are the most “important” things couples get mad at each other. But less important things such as sexual jealousy, hating each other's friends, dealing with each other's family, and discussing children, social life, etc., are factors that cause the most conflict. 

What is the solution? As the solution for pollution is dilution, you have to dilute the toxicity in relationship with the help of positive thoughts and practical tips. 

1. Love and compassion are very essential for the relationship to last for ever. 
2. One’s shortcomings should be given less attention and trust should be given more importance. 
3. Develop patience.
4. Never insult and do not degrade
5. Accept. 
6. Stop digging into the past pain
7. And stop  demanding. 

If you and your pain are important, then where is the importance of your soulmate and the relationship? Learn to forgive if you really love your life partner. There is a password to login to your most beautiful relationship...

….the password is "I CARE"

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How to get help from an online therapist?

It is very simple to get connect online with a therapist. You can use platforms like google, zoom or WhatsApp and phone calls for follow up. You can discuss and select your choice of method to chat. And find help to get right solutions for those struggles you face in your life. A trained therapist will however charge a fee for every chat or session. All your personal and private information is safe with us, as we do not record or share any details that you disclose with us. You have a choice to remain anonymous as we do not try to trace you by any means.

Speak to us if you want to try first. You can then fix the counselling and therapy sessions

So, we are here for you, for all kinds of challenges like, child, adolescence and adult issues - like cooping with divorce, anger, anxiety, illness and hospital experiences, old age issues, family stress, finding who you are, etc. . We want you to get the best support possible. We provide various therapies like CBT, EMDR, DBT, Gestalt, T.A., NLP, Hypnotherapy, Yoga, etc. You can fix an appointment with us by contacting us over WhatsApp / the mobile number   +919446607585   and click on link     YUP Online    (at the top corner of blog page) at the scheduled time for a session on zoom meeting. Because you deserve a better, peaceful life!!! That's it.

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Manage Life, Stress free

How to manage Life, Stress Free 

Is there any simple method to manage Life, Stress free? What is stress? Stress can be related to different aspects of life, like Physical, Mental or Emotional. Whatever is your stress, there is a simple method of managing your life using a very simple formula. 

For knowing more details about how to manage life stress free, by understanding and applying this very simple method, watch the video:-

ZOOM Training (23rd May 2020)

As a part of National Training Day (JCI)

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Stress free life session @ Rotary club

Freedom from 'Burn out syndrome' using Laughter Therapy - Program for Rotary club of Kottayam East .

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Stress free life session @ Hindalco HCC

December 2014

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