ANNIHILATE CONFLICT ⏩

Beware of your perception - the glass you wear 

Your worst battle is between what is real and what you feel  

As shown by research conducted by places such as the HeartMath Institute, our hearts carry their own special kind of intuitive intelligence. As we were raised in societies that were (and still are) dominated by the mind, we become very confused and disconcerted when our hearts get involved in everyday matters. It is very easy to listen to the mind, mindlessly obey what others teach us, and logically plan our lives. But our hearts carry their own special kind of intelligence, an intelligence that is nonlinear, subtle, and often very abstract. There is no formula or set of rules that are attached to the heart’s intelligence: it is up to us to tune into the voice within, which is often what confuses us so much.

Our head intelligence is what helps to give our lives structure, direction, and practical application. But our heart intelligence is what breathes life and truth into this framework of our life journeys. Without listening to our hearts, we live soulless, unfulfilling, and inauthentic lives. But without listening to our heads, we live in absolute chaos. As we can see, balance is needed. We need to listen to both the heart and head, but often, we tend to value one over the other which is what causes us to experience internal conflict.

When we are in a harmonious environment (like there is nothing much to worry about our day to day life - for us and our family) our mind picks up any excuse to be in conflict. So often small things are enough to create big turmoil. If we have a conflicting environment, we tend to seek harmony … Have we ever noticed this? once we lose your peace of mind we only think about our righteousness and develop a mindset of a victim. This catalyze the entire cycle of bad feelings. Now we don't care.

Ask ourselves this question: Do we seek harmony in every situation or do we seek to widen the differences and prove our righteousness? When our survival is at stake, we don't complain that nobody loves us. We seek for solutions or help and support. When we are safe and secure we start demanding attention. Many people create conflict in order to get attention. They do not mind ruining the relationship and making hell lot of troubles. This becomes a habit and they find reasons outside for their sufferings. Who can save us?

The seed of negativity and the tendency for conflict in us can only be annihilated by understanding ourselves and practice under the guidance of a Guru. Think outside the victim mindset!

Few tips for finding peace of mind and clarity:

• Find out what false, misleading, limiting or second-hand and mistaken beliefs are fueling the conflict and confusion within you?

• Figure out your number one priority- is it the person you need or the pain you feel?

• Distinguish between the clear, strong unemotional voice of intuition and vague intuitive voice of fear which is going to drive your action!

• Be ruthlessly honest: what are you scared of? Aren't you pushing love away for the fear of not having it for ever!

• What is the “lesser of two evils”? Is it "let me cheat for not getting myself cheated"?

• If you really mean that you “did not mean to hurt”; adopt a better future perspective to avoid pain and regrets.

• Weigh up the pros and cons.

• Instead of making rash, poorly thought-out decisions; think, in the long-term, what would be the wisest choice?

• What is resisting the flow? Its your beliefs and thoughts that cut the flow!

• Are you honoring your authenticity or honoring what you “think” you should do/be? What is a more loving approach?

• Is there a more important underlying issue? Sometimes internal conflict actually hides deeper issues that need to be explored to find a resolution, such as negative self-beliefs, unresolved shame or childhood wounds.

• Choose to stop participating in negative imagination. Do you need an answer right this very moment? Why should you get shared of everything immediately as per our criteria of importance?

• Love can follow the rule of direct proportion but when your demands are more your satiety is less!

• Relax your mind to develop better perspectives.

We need to use our heart as well as our brain so that internal harmony is created.