The psychological problem of "always feeling cheated"

                        Why do I always think my partner is cheating on me? 

'You'  only can answer this question as usually people believe that when they have the feeling it is because of signs. You feel like 'your gut' is always telling you this truth. But if there is no solid evidence then be careful as your paranoia, lack of trust and insecurities can destroy relationships and state of mind. Why does it happen?

You can be jealous, and it is a natural instinct when you are heads over heels in love with someone. Might be your instincts telling you something. When you have something really great, it's easy to get caught up in your head imagining it not being there anymore. Due to some incident which has occupied in the subconscious mind may lead you to think, your partner is cheating on you. If your partner has not given you a reason to distrust him/her then this insecurity feeling is coming directly from inside of your mind.

Maybe something similar has happened in a previous relationship and this is an insecurity that has stuck with you over time. Yes, history is said to be a good teacher, and when you were repeatedly betrayed, you tend to "learn" that the people you love will eventually either leave or prove not to be deserving of your trust.

A lot of  concerns regarding an unfaithful spouse, if there are no real indications or clear red flags that they could be cheating, stem from own insecurities. You create your own demons in your relationships; you feel poorly about yourself, push those insecurities onto your significant other, and almost convince them that they were too good for you and bound to find someone better, if they hadn't already. If couldn't see the beauty and amazing traits about yourself that your soulmate is attracted to, so you will have nothing in your brain to convince you that you are worthy of a faithful partner. 

It can be a trust issue.  It may be because you do not trust and love your partner, but not ready to take the blame on you. Maybe you've been hurt before in the past by a significant other being disloyal, which you are trying to impose on your present relationship. Because you've had bad experience of someone breaking your trust and tiny little happenings are triggering something in your mind that makes your brain match whatever is happening right now what you have experience with. 

You feel that your partner isn't showing you as much attention as he/she used to, as your irritating character becomes your nature which push him/her away. Attachment issues and fear of being abandoned are very common fears, especially if one has been hurt in such ways in the past. Although one logically knows that they are wrong (unless evidence says otherwise), the nagging feeling often persists, and causes the individual distress. It's essentially what I would call a "conflict between your mind and your heart".

Or maybe it's just because you're really stressed out and everything seems to turn against you, even within your love life. Maybe because you have cheated and think your partner will do the same. Not everyone is the same. Love and trust go together and when feel doubts and insecurities and you don't have any solid to prove your doubts then you need to look at yourself and see why you are thinking or feeling this way.

Or maybe you love your partner so much that you can't bear to think how your life without him/her might be, so you're constantly worrying that something is going to go wrong and ruin the perfect fairytale you have panned out in your mind? It's natural, but if your partner is making an effort to be loyal, make sure you recognize it as this will help put your fears to rest as well. Give it a thought :)

Sometimes it very hard to understand what is going on. The brain is a strange part of our body. It is always thinking harder than it actually should and can come up with some very far fetched situations. Sometimes we look for problems in other people when we ourselves are feeling lost. Find more information within yourself as to why you feel this way.

Realise that you are not alone. You will be better if you are realistic in acknowledging the possibility that it could happen but that could be exhausting as a constant thought. Invest all these waisted energy into something productive for building the relationship. If you would like to talk with him about your fears, please try to remain open and optimistic about his/her answers. Explain that this is a fear and not an accusation(You too always remember that while talking).

Find ways to install your trust back. Don't try installing software to track him/her, instead confront him/her, but don't accuse him/her of anything it will make him/her defensive. Start of by saying "I haven't seen you that much at home, is everything alright" "Is there something you need to tell me".

Honesty is the key -- Get out of your prejudiced mind and have a good, long conversation with your partner about how you feel. But it should not end up as a heated argument as you may use the opportunity to express your righteousness. You can definitely change your thinking and lead a happy , calmer and peaceful life if you stop OVER THINKING. 

You may be facing the psychological problem of NLD (Non-verbal Learning Disorder). You may feel cheated because you may feel many people still refuse to understand you. Other problems also will pop up because that's the nature of NLD. NLD isn't one or even ten learning disorders but many. No matter how "fine" you seems there will always be an unknown hill to navigate. That's one reason anxiety is usually concurrent with NLD. Depression is common. So are other neurological and "emotional" problems. Just trying to deal with NLD can cause "emotional/mental" problems.

Always remember that NLD can affect everything from spatial, organizational, executive functioning, social and cognitive problems. Most people don't have every problem. There is no definitive criteria for diagnosing NLD but a substantial difference between verbal and performance IQ is often the standard.

Sometimes it is very difficult to find out your inner strength. The bothersome feelings can often however, be alleviated by means of therapeutic techniques such as CBT, and behavioral techniques such as meditation. If one believes their issue to be pathological, then it is best to go see a psychologist or physician, as only health care practitioners are qualified to issue diagnoses and offer treatments.

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Do not learn from your mistakes !!!

 

Don't repeat the same mistakes again



As the saying goes, you should learn from your mistakes. Really? We don't want to make mistakes again, right? That's why they say we should learn from our mistakes. It depends on our perception. It can be a risky business as sometimes our mind can play games and the learned lessons can really be misleading too. Moreover often we twist reality according to our belief system so that it looks like we didn't make a mistake at all. Because by default we don't like to feel bad. Thus if you fail, even to recognize that you have made one, then from where will you learn? When we do something our brain creates a memory pathway. That's a natural way of conditioning, a type of learning. But we didn't learn those lessons purposefully.

The neural pathways created while doing something, right or wrong builds our habits. Its obvious as we can see many examples in our life and lives of people around us. This is true in the case of repeatedly  making mistakes and trying to learn lessons too. The very process of scanning the past mistakes again and again for learning that lesson can be really dangerous. Especially when we are not sure about our expertise in learning lesson properly.  Why we keep making the same mistakes is that we slip by default back into the existing memory pathways. Yes, our brain do learn from making mistakes, … they learn how to make them. 

Solution is that we stop trying to learn from past mistakes. Remembering them will encourage us to get guided by the previous neural pathway. Instead think about what we want to achieve and view it from a fresh angle. Learn right, right now.

Develop a better, new perspective!

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Why fight in marriage? - A password to avoid fight !!!

A password to avoid fight !!!

It is completely normal and healthy for couples to have small fights frequently in a relationship. It is not the number of fights but how you fight is important, like fight that involve criticism, contempt, name-calling or yelling,  are lethal for the relationship

As per Transactional Analysis, all living beings live for positive strokes. We do everything in our life for being happy, yes; of course including marriage, as in the case of building any other relationship. In marriage, you can see that during the initial phase of relationship all are very happy, like they have conquered the world. Every couple thinks that it's their partner who can understand them better than anybody in this world. Clarity of vision is there regarding each other. They can clearly see what is going on in their partner's mind, their feelings in their heart. They compete to make each other happy. They are ready to forgive and forget the mistakes of each other (though later they will claim it as their "broad-mindedness" while they fight). 

But as time goes, because of challenges in the life, and social interactions, the complexity and lack of communication; negativity accumulates and clarity is lost. The relationships gets spoilt and an overall toxicity sets in. Mind is more easily influenced by the negative advices of toxic people, unconsciously creating an impression in the thought pattern.  Fight is always because of ego and deprivation of reciprocal trust. Lack of trust will lead to fear.  In intimate relationships disconnection occurs when the anxiety or fear in one causes the friction and then creates a sense of inadequacy in the other. 

Sex and money are the most “important” things couples get mad at each other. But less important things such as sexual jealousy, hating each other's friends, dealing with each other's family, and discussing children, social life, etc., are factors that cause the most conflict. 

What is the solution? As the solution for pollution is dilution, you have to dilute the toxicity in relationship with the help of positive thoughts and practical tips. 

1. Love and compassion are very essential for the relationship to last for ever. 
2. One’s shortcomings should be given less attention and trust should be given more importance. 
3. Develop patience.
4. Never insult and do not degrade
5. Accept. 
6. Stop digging into the past pain
7. And stop  demanding. 

If you and your pain are important, then where is the importance of your soulmate and the relationship? Learn to forgive if you really love your life partner. There is a password to login to your most beautiful relationship...

….the password is "I CARE"

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How to plank properly: Step-by-Step

A plank is a simple, effective bodyweight exercise that requires no equipment and can be performed just about anywhere. It's a perfect precursor to more challenging arm balances. 

Steps to perform Plank pose:-

1. Lie down on your stomach. Hands by the side of your body. 

2. Bring your hands towards your shoulders, keeping your palms on the ground. Ground toes into the mat 

3. Now inhale first and as you exhale, push your body up forming a straight line. The arms are perpendicular to the ground and shoulders are right over your wrists. Keep body stiff 

4. Neutralize your neck and spine by looking at a spot on the floor about a foot beyond your hands. Your head should be in line with your back. 

5. Hold the pose for 20 seconds and continue breathing. As you get more comfortable with the move, hold your plank for as long as possible without compromising your form or breath 

6. As you inhale, come back to starting position and relax

Watch the video for a better idea on how to perform a standard or high plank.

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എന്താണ്, എന്തിനാണ് യോഗം ?

എന്താണ്, എന്തിനാണ്  യോഗം ? (Improved - Repost)

 
യോഗം , ശരിയായ മനനത്തിൽ നിന്നും തിരിച്ചറിവിൽനിന്നും ഉരുത്തിരിഞ്ഞ, സന്തുലിതമായ  ജീവിത രീതി ആണ്. സമചിത്തതയോടെ സ്വമനസ്സാലുള്ള സ്വയം നിയന്ത്രണമാണ് യോഗത്തിന്റെ മുഖമുദ്ര.

 
മനുഷ്യനും മറ്റ് എല്ലാ ജീവജാലങ്ങളെയും പോലെ പ്രകൃതിയെ ആശ്രയിച്ചു ജീവിക്കുന്നു.  എല്ലാ ജീവജാലങ്ങളും പ്രകൃതിനിയമങ്ങൾ കൃത്യമായി 
 പാലിക്കുന്നു. അവ ഇന്നിൽ, ഈ നിമിഷത്തിൽ ജീവിക്കുന്നു. സന്തോഷം അവയുടെ അടിസ്ഥാന സ്വഭാവമാണ് . ഇന്നലെകളോ നാളെകളോ അവയെ അലട്ടുന്നില്ല. അവയുടെ ജീവിതം വളരെ ലളിതമാണ് . മനുഷ്യനും അടിസ്ഥാനപരമായി അതിലൊന്നുതന്നെ അല്ലെ?

മനുഷ്യൻ ബൗദ്ധികമായി ഏറെ പരിണാമം സിദ്ധിച്ചവൻ. തന്റെ പോരായ്മകളെ ഏറെ ബുദ്ധിശക്തികൊണ്ടു നിയന്ത്രിച്ചവൻ. പക്ഷേ അവൻ പലപ്പോഴും   പ്രകൃതിയെ കീഴടക്കിയെന്നു ചിന്തിച്ചു മൂഢസ്വർഗ്ഗത്തിൽ വിരാചിക്കുന്നു. ബുദ്ധി അവന്റെ ശക്തിയാണെങ്കിലും ഭൂത ഭാവി ചിന്തകളും അമിതാഭിലാഷങ്ങളും അവൻറെ സ്വൈര്യം കെടുത്തുന്നു. ഇന്നിൽ ഈ നിമിഷത്തിൽ ജീവിക്കുവാൻ അവൻ മറന്നു പോയിരിക്കുന്നു. പ്രപഞ്ചത്തിൽ ഒരു സൂചിമുനയുടെ പോലും വലിപ്പമില്ലാത്ത സൗരയൂഥത്തിന്റെ ഏതോ കോണിലുള്ള ഭൂമിയിലെ രാജാവായി സ്വയം ചമയുകയാണവൻ. പ്രകൃതിയെ മെരുക്കുന്ന തിരക്കിൽ സ്വയം നാശം വിതയ്ക്കുന്നത് അവൻ കാണുന്നില്ല.

അനന്തമായ പ്രകൃതി ശക്തിയുടെ ഭാഗമാണ് പ്രകൃതി നിയമങ്ങൾ. ആ  നിയമങ്ങൾ സന്തുലിതാവസ്ഥക്കായി നിലകൊള്ളുന്നു. നിയമം മറികടന്നാൽ ശിക്ഷ ഉറപ്പ്. അലംഘനീയങ്ങളായ പ്രകൃതിനിയമങ്ങൾ ലംഘിക്കുന്ന ഏതു ജീവിയെയുമെന്നപോലെ മനുഷ്യനെയും പ്രകൃതി ശിക്ഷിക്കുന്നുണ്ട്. രോഗങ്ങളും അനാരോഗ്യവും ആ ശിക്ഷയുടെ വകഭേദങ്ങൾ തന്നെ  ആണ്. ഉദാഹരണത്തിന് എയ്ഡ്സ്, സാർസ് കോവിഡ് പോലുള്ള രോഗങ്ങൾ എങ്ങിനെ നമ്മളിൽ എത്തി ഇതുപോലെ നാശം വിതക്കുന്നു എന്ന് ആലോചിച്ചിട്ടുണ്ടോ? എങ്ങിനെ ഡയബെറ്റിസ് ഉം  അമിത രക്തസമ്മർദ ഹൃദയ രോഗങ്ങളും കരൾ രോഗങ്ങളും പലവിധ അർബുദ രോഗങ്ങളും പലതര മനോരോഗാവസ്ഥകളും  മറ്റും  നമ്മുടെ ഇടയിൽ ഇത്ര  സാമാന്യമായി കണ്ടുതുടങ്ങി എന്ന് ചിന്തിച്ചു നോക്കൂ.  പുറത്തുനിന്ന് പ്രകൃതിഷോഭങ്ങളും പ്രകൃതിസമ്പത്തിന്റെ അപര്യാപ്തതകളും അകത്തുനിന്നു സ്വാർത്ഥതയും അസന്തുഷ്ടിയും രോഗങ്ങളും അവന്റെ വംശനാശത്തിന് ഇടയാക്കും എന്നതിൽ ഒരു സംശയവും ഇല്ല. പനപോലെ വളർന്നാൽ നാശവും പെട്ടെന്നാവും എന്ന നാടൻ പ്രയോഗം ഓർക്കുക. നമ്മുടെ ആരോഗ്യം ആരുടെ ഉത്തരവാദിത്വം  ആണ്? സർക്കാരിന്റേയോ അതോ ആശുപത്രികളുടെയോ? നമ്മൾ എന്ത് പരിഹാരം ചെയ്തു? നിരുത്തരവാദിത്വപരമായി ഇനിയും എത്രകാലം ഇങ്ങനെ എന്ന ചോദ്യം നിങ്ങളുടെ ചിന്തക്കായി സമർപ്പിക്കുന്നു!

യോഗം ആധുനികയുഗത്തിലും മിഴിവാർന്ന ഒരു  അതിപുരാതന ആശയം ആണ്. നിയമം ലംഘിക്കാതെ ജീവിക്കാനുള്ള ഒരു ഉപാധി ആണ് യോഗം. ശരിയായ തിരിച്ചറിവുകളിൽ നിന്നും സാമാന്യ ബുദ്ധിയിൽ നിന്നും ഉരുത്തിരിഞ്ഞ  ശാസ്ത്ര പിൻബലമുള്ള ഒരു ജീവിത രീതിയാണ് യോഗം. വിത്യസ്ത ചിന്താഗതി ഉള്ളവർ വത്യസ്തരീതിയിൽ ഇതിനെ സമീപിച്ചപ്പോൾ വത്യസ്തങ്ങൾ ആയ യോഗ രീതികൾ ഉണ്ടായി. എന്നാൽ അടിസ്ഥാന രീതികളും ഗുണങ്ങളും ഒന്ന് തന്നെ. തിരിച്ചറിവും ദൃഢനിശ്ചയവും ആണ് യോഗ പഠനത്തിനുള്ള ഏറ്റവും പ്രധാന ആവശ്യം. ശരിയായ ദിശയിൽ നയിക്കാൻ കഴിയുന്ന,  തന്നെ സമീപിക്കുന്ന വ്യക്തികളെ ശരിയായി അപഗ്രഥിച്ചു സഹായിക്കാൻ കഴിവുള്ള ഗുരുവിനെ കണ്ടെത്തുന്നതാണ് ഏതു യോഗരീതിയും അഭ്യസിക്കാനുള്ള ആദ്യ പടി. യോഗം അവലംബിച്ചു മുന്നോട്ടുള്ള യാത്ര നമ്മളിൽ പുതിയ പുതിയ ഉൾക്കാഴ്ചകളും മാറ്റങ്ങളും സൃഷ്ടിക്കും എന്ന് ഉറപ്പ്. ഏവരിലും ഒരു ചിത്രശലഭം വിരിഞ്ഞു പറന്നുയരും!

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Fitness First : One month online Yoga - For JCI Zone XX Program Area ( Lessons learned)

Please Read Why and What is Yoga

 5th May 2021

05/05/2021 Today's very simple lessons - Exercises

1. Moderate Jogging 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
2. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
3. Fingers stretch exercise 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
4. Wrist rotation, both directions 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
5. Elbow stretch 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Shoulder rotation both directions 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.

                                                                 Remember to breathe 😀

 7th May 2021

07/05/2021 Today's very simple lessons - Exercises

1. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
2. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
3. Fingers stretch exercise with breathing 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
4. Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
5. Elbow stretch with breathing 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Shoulder rotation both directions + with forward and backward swimming movements 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs
8. Janu sirasanam with both legs
9. Simple breathing awareness with one hand (palm) on your stomach

Remember to breathe too 😀

 10th May 2021

10/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Mindfulness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization 
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
4. Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
5. Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Shoulder rotation both directions + with forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs 
10. Janu sirasanam with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
11. Standard Plank pose for beginners
12. Forearm Plank 
13. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:1 ratio

Remember to breathe and be mindful too 😀

 10th May 2021

12/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Do everything with Mindfulness and breath awareness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization 
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
4. Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
5. Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Shoulder rotation both directions + with forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Padanguli naman - Toes Bending exercise with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos 2-3 rounds
10. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos
11. Seated ankle rotation clockwise and anti-clockwise 10-15 nos 2-3 reps
12. Janu sirasanam with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
13. Standard Plank pose for beginners with normal breathing and mindfulness
14. Forearm Plank with normal breathing and mindfulness
15. Seated leg stretch - Bend knee and keep the feet, inside of the feet touching out side of thigh  outwardly near the thigh with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos both legs.  Ardha Vajrasenam
16. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:1 ratio

Remember to breathe, visualize and be mindful too 😀

17th May 2021

17/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Do everything with Mindfulness and breath awareness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization 
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Tadasana variation - Full body stretch up finally landing on your toes and balancing - 2 sets
4. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
5. Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Shoulder rotation both directions +  forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
10. Padanguli naman - Toes Bending exercise with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos 2-3 rounds
11. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos
12. Seated ankle rotation clockwise and anti-clockwise 10-15 nos 2-3 reps
13. Janu sirasanam with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
14. Standard Plank pose for beginners with normal breathing and mindfulness
15. Forearm Plank with normal breathing and mindfulness
16. Seated leg stretch - Bend knee and keep the feet, inside of the feet touching out side of thigh  outwardly near the thigh with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos both legs.  Ardha Vajrasenam
17. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:1 ratio

Remember to practice regularly, breathe, visualize and be mindful too 😀

19th May 2021

19/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Do everything with Mindfulness and breath awareness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization. Try to hold final pose of each Asana for some time with normal breathing.
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Tadasana variation - Full body stretch up finally landing on your toes and balancing - 2 sets
4. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
5. Padahastha Asana - Hand to feet on exhalation without bending your knees - 2-3 sets
6. Mushtika Bandhan - Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Manibandha Chakra - Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Kehuni Naman - Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
10. Skantha Chakra - Shoulder rotation both directions +  forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
11. Padanguli naman - Toes Bending exercise with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos 2-3 rounds
12. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos
13. Janu Chakra - Seated ankle rotation clockwise and anti-clockwise 10-15 nos 2-3 reps
14. Janu sirasanam - with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
15. Standard Plank pose for beginners with normal breathing and mindfulness
16. Forearm Plank with normal breathing and mindfulness
17. Ardha Vajrasenam - Seated leg stretch - Bend knee and keep the feet, inside of the feet touching out side of thigh  outwardly near the thigh with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos both legs.  
18. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:2 ratio

 

 Practice regularly, breathe, visualize and be mindful too

   Remember to hold your  pose, not your breath 😀

25th May 2021

25/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Do everything with Mindfulness and breath awareness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization. Try to hold final pose of each Asana for some time with normal breathing.
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Tadasana variation - Full body stretch up finally landing on your toes and balancing - 2 sets
4. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
5. Mushtika Bandhan - Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Manibandha Chakra - Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Kehuni Naman - Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Skantha Chakra - Shoulder rotation both directions +  forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
10. Padanguli naman - Toes Bending exercise with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos 2-3 rounds
11. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos
12. Janu Chakra - Seated ankle rotation clockwise and anti-clockwise 10-15 nos 2-3 reps
13. Janu sirasanam - with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
14. Padahastha Asana - Hand to feet on exhalation without bending your knees - 2-3 sets
15. Ardha chakrasana - Half wheel pose. With hands supporting your back, bend backwards from waist,  combining inhalation. Maintain as much as possible and come back with exhalation. 2 rep.
16. Standard Plank pose for beginners with normal breathing and mindfulness
17. Forearm Plank with normal breathing and mindfulness
18. Ardha Vajrasenam - Seated leg stretch - Bend one leg from the knee, outwardly near the thigh. Keep the  inside of the feet touching out side of same side thigh. Do with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos both legs.  
19. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:2 ratio
20. Sit in a comfortable pose and concentrate on breathing and inner awareness - 5 min

 

 Practice regularly, breathe, visualize and be mindful too

   Remember to hold your  pose, not your breath 😀

28th May 2021

28/05/2021 Today's  simple lessons - Exercises

1. Do everything with Mindfulness and breath awareness : Do asanas with eyes closed and with visualization. Try to hold final pose of each Asana for some time with normal breathing.
2. Moderate Jogging with hands moving up and down with breathing 2-3 sets of 1 to 2 min duration
3. Tadasana variation - Full body stretch up finally landing on your toes and balancing - 2 sets
4. Santhi Asana or Standing/ Seated relaxation posture between each set of every exercise
5. Mushtika Bandhan - Fingers stretch exercise with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
6. Manibandha Chakra - Wrist rotation, both directions + clockwise and anti-clockwise rotations with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
7. Kehuni Naman - Elbow stretch with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
8. Elbow stretch sideways (chest opening) with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
9. Skantha Chakra - Shoulder rotation both directions +  forward and backward swimming movements with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos 2-3 rep.
10. Padanguli naman - Toes Bending exercise with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos 2-3 rounds
11. Seated legs stretch Left and right legs with breathing and mindfulness 8-10 nos
12. Janu Chakra - Seated ankle rotation clockwise and anti-clockwise 10-15 nos 2-3 reps
13. Janu sirasanam - with both legs with breathing and mindfulness
14. Padahastha Asana - Hand to feet on exhalation without bending your knees - 2-3 sets
15. Ardha chakrasana - Half wheel pose. With hands supporting your back, bend backwards from waist,  combining inhalation. Maintain as much as possible and come back with exhalation. 2 rep.
16. Tiryak Tadasana - Inhale and raise the interlocked hands over the head and bend sidewise with exhalation. Inhale and come back. Repeat for the opposite side. Do with mindfulness 2-3 rep.
17. Standard Plank pose for beginners with normal breathing and mindfulness
18. Forearm Plank with normal breathing and mindfulness
19. Ardha Vajrasenam - Seated leg stretch - Bend one leg from the knee, outwardly near the thigh. Keep the  inside of the feet touching out side of same side thigh. Do with breathing and mindfulness 10-15 nos both legs.  
20. Simple breathing awareness with inhalation and exhalation @ 1:2 ratio
21. Sit in a comfortable pose and concentrate on breathing and inner awareness - 5 min

 

 Practice regularly, breathe, visualize and be mindful too

   Remember to practice relaxation 😀  

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ANNIHILATE CONFLICT ⏩

Beware of your perception - the glass you wear 

Your worst battle is between what is real and what you feel  

As shown by research conducted by places such as the HeartMath Institute, our hearts carry their own special kind of intuitive intelligence. As we were raised in societies that were (and still are) dominated by the mind, we become very confused and disconcerted when our hearts get involved in everyday matters. It is very easy to listen to the mind, mindlessly obey what others teach us, and logically plan our lives. But our hearts carry their own special kind of intelligence, an intelligence that is nonlinear, subtle, and often very abstract. There is no formula or set of rules that are attached to the heart’s intelligence: it is up to us to tune into the voice within, which is often what confuses us so much.

Our head intelligence is what helps to give our lives structure, direction, and practical application. But our heart intelligence is what breathes life and truth into this framework of our life journeys. Without listening to our hearts, we live soulless, unfulfilling, and inauthentic lives. But without listening to our heads, we live in absolute chaos. As we can see, balance is needed. We need to listen to both the heart and head, but often, we tend to value one over the other which is what causes us to experience internal conflict.

When we are in a harmonious environment (like there is nothing much to worry about our day to day life - for us and our family) our mind picks up any excuse to be in conflict. So often small things are enough to create big turmoil. If we have a conflicting environment, we tend to seek harmony … Have we ever noticed this? once we lose your peace of mind we only think about our righteousness and develop a mindset of a victim. This catalyze the entire cycle of bad feelings. Now we don't care.

Ask ourselves this question: Do we seek harmony in every situation or do we seek to widen the differences and prove our righteousness? When our survival is at stake, we don't complain that nobody loves us. We seek for solutions or help and support. When we are safe and secure we start demanding attention. Many people create conflict in order to get attention. They do not mind ruining the relationship and making hell lot of troubles. This becomes a habit and they find reasons outside for their sufferings. Who can save us?

The seed of negativity and the tendency for conflict in us can only be annihilated by understanding ourselves and practice under the guidance of a Guru. Think outside the victim mindset!

Few tips for finding peace of mind and clarity:

• Find out what false, misleading, limiting or second-hand and mistaken beliefs are fueling the conflict and confusion within you?

• Figure out your number one priority- is it the person you need or the pain you feel?

• Distinguish between the clear, strong unemotional voice of intuition and vague intuitive voice of fear which is going to drive your action!

• Be ruthlessly honest: what are you scared of? Aren't you pushing love away for the fear of not having it for ever!

• What is the “lesser of two evils”? Is it "let me cheat for not getting myself cheated"?

• If you really mean that you “did not mean to hurt”; adopt a better future perspective to avoid pain and regrets.

• Weigh up the pros and cons.

• Instead of making rash, poorly thought-out decisions; think, in the long-term, what would be the wisest choice?

• What is resisting the flow? Its your beliefs and thoughts that cut the flow!

• Are you honoring your authenticity or honoring what you “think” you should do/be? What is a more loving approach?

• Is there a more important underlying issue? Sometimes internal conflict actually hides deeper issues that need to be explored to find a resolution, such as negative self-beliefs, unresolved shame or childhood wounds.

• Choose to stop participating in negative imagination. Do you need an answer right this very moment? Why should you get shared of everything immediately as per our criteria of importance?

• Love can follow the rule of direct proportion but when your demands are more your satiety is less!

• Relax your mind to develop better perspectives.

We need to use our heart as well as our brain so that internal harmony is created.

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